Okay so I am paraphrasing a conversation I had with my girlfriend Michelle as we shared a lunch. Apparently single ladies of all ages have their ups and downs in the relationships department. It’s oddly comforting but depressing too. I’ve got a good decade on her and she can’t find a decent guy?
Yeah, I am dying alone. Make way cat lady. World here I come. Really? Who are you people? This is Sylvia. I am not going gentle into that good night. Michelle and I have both been trying the whole online dating world thing. So far without much success. However, I do believe that is the wave of the future, especially for people in my age range. But for now it is almost a glorified meat market. I’m not knocking the online experience. I have met some nice people. One I thought was rather interesting, but so far that is all it has amounted to is a passing interest. So back to the life I am living and the lunch with my girlfriend. I love talking with her because she has such a great way of looking at her life. She inspires me. Michelle has always been one of my no nonsense girlfriends. I need them in my life. I tend to be the flaky one. The only time that is not the case is when I am spending time around theater people. Then I am in my element. I’m sure my theater friends might feel me flaky as well, but they have grown to accept that as one of my personal quirks. I have made peace with it. I am embracing my artistic nature.
Michelle and I met for lunch to catch up with what was going on in our lives. Talking with another adult woman facing similar things in her life helps me through situations that may at other times feel overwhelming. Life comes at you pretty fast. If you do not have a support system in place it can feel like you were on the tracks when a freight train passed. It can feel that way when even they are in place and that is when you count your lucky stars that those people are there for you.
In the continued effort to change my life, I am expanding my support system. I used to think of myself as a very social woman. Taking a hard look I found that I had stopped being her. That was horrible. How did I let such a vibrant woman just cease to exist? Well, big girl panties on. I’m back, and with that life lesson learned, for the better. Look in the mirror. What is it that you want? So what is stopping you? Who is responsible for you? I am not allowing stagnation to settle into my life. Opening up to new people is always a little unsettling, but so far the benefits have been rewarding. The social circles in which I travel are widening and with them come new ideas, perspectives and friendships.
I was always the luckiest woman in the world to have my Ya-Ya’s at the base of my support system, or else I would never have made it. These women are my heart and soul. They have such a place in my life. I would give them an organ if they asked. Granted mine are pretty well used but at least God can’t say that I wasted them. These ladies have seen me through every high and every low of my life over the past 18 years and some of the ladies in the group further back than that. I do not have words to describe them or the thanks to repay all they have done for me. What I do hope for you all is that you have your support group like I have mine. So whether your group has been friends for years or you are meeting new people and making the world smaller one person at a time, having people in your life to share your life is something to love. So I am off to do that just that, Today, I am mixing the best of all my worlds. Enjoy whatever it is you do this day with the people that mean something to you. At the risk of repeating myself…life does come at you pretty fast….better not miss it…..Hey Anabell..BIKE!!!!!